I’ve always considered myself a clear communicator.

With a background in project management and over 15 years of working directly with clients, I believe I’m pretty good at providing clear communication. I’ve learned how to write in digestible, easy-to-follow lists. I delegate responsibilities, outline action items, and strive to keep things moving forward in a calm and organized way.

It’s a skill I’ve worked hard to hone—and one I truly value.

When Communication Starts to Feel Off

But lately? Communication hasn’t felt so clear.

I’ve found myself feeling frustrated. Unheard. Wondering where things went wrong and replaying conversations in my head.

Have you ever felt that way?

Default to Self-Blame

When something doesn’t go right, my first instinct is to blame myself. I ask: 

What did I miss? What could I have said differently?

I never want to be the person who points fingers or places blame. But that kind of thinking—while well-intentioned—can quietly take a toll.

Carrying It All Quietly

Over time, I’ve realized that carrying it all on my own doesn’t make things better.

In fact, it makes things harder.

I hold back from saying what needs to be said because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or create tension. I stay quiet to keep the peace. But that quiet turns heavy, and eventually it weighs me down.

A Few Hard Truths I’ve Learned

What I’ve learned (and am still learning) is this:

  • Sometimes people will take advantage of your kindness, and you won’t realize it until it’s too late.
  • Sometimes that gut feeling you get about someone or something is absolutely right—and you need to trust it the first time.
  • And sometimes, even when you do everything “right,” things still fall apart. That doesn’t mean you failed.
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What Clear Communication Really Means

Clear communication isn’t just about how you say things—it’s also about how you receive things.

It’s about boundaries, honesty, trust, and respect.

So, here’s my reminder to you (and to myself):

  • Speak up when something doesn’t feel right.
  • Ask for what you need.
  • Be willing to have the hard conversations.

Because clear communication isn’t just key—It’s everything.